Married at First Sight saw Ryan Oubre and Clara Berghaus excitedly tying the knot and saying "I Do" during season 12. Fans agreed that they truly seemed to be in sync with one another, and it seemed this couple was going to make it through all of life's ups and downs as a united force. While many other relationships highlighted on the show depicted endless drama and non-stop arguing and bickering, Ryan and Clara seemed to settle right in to an easy, comfortable relationship with one another.
When the shocking revelation was made that they had decided to call it quits and that Ryan had filed for divorce, it was a total surprise to fans who were truly blindsided by the news. Curiosity was peaked, and the reason behind this breakup became the new fixation for fans that needed to know more.
10 Ryan Oubre Suggests Clara Berghaus Was 'Racially Tone-Deaf'
When they entered into an interracial relationship, Ryan and Clara seemed to be completely at ease, and neither of them expressed concern about the situation. Now that the divorce has been processed, Ryan has come forward to suggest that Clara was disturbingly racially tone-deaf, and that he wasn't able to cope with that fact.
Ryan is quoted as saying, "You can't truly be open to marry another race and not want to marry their culture (or at least at the minimum understand it)." He went on to say, "The Black experience and Black culture are not monolithic, there's no one size fits all shoe. It's ever-evolving and changing with time."
9 Ryan Oubre Claims Clara Berghaus Was Disrespectful To His Family
Ryan is a family man and admits that the was taken aback by Clara's conduct in front of his relatives. He accused her of walking in to one of his family gatherings while glued to her phone, and went on to say, " not speaking to anyone and scrolling through your phone will never fly and declining food (outside of a food allergy or avoidance) because you don't like the way it looks won't help either….Choosing not to attempt to understand and educate yourself is a red flag."
8 Counseling Couldn't Save Ryan Oubre And Clara Berghaus' Marriage
At the first signs of trouble and disagreement, Ryan and Clara signed themselves up for marriage counseling and post-show therapy seemed to be going well for the couple. They both devoted their time and attention to bettering their marriage, however, the progress that was being made wasn't sustainable in the long run. Clara thought counseling was going well and admits to feeling blindsided when Ryan filed for divorce and took formal steps to end their marriage.
7 The Cameras Prevented Ryan From Opening Up Tough Conversations
Ryan Oubre admits that he saw some red flags at the beginning of this interracial relationship. He went on to tell fans that he felt Clara Berghaus lacked the ability to connect with Black Americans but that he wasn't able to bring up the topic for fear that it would be somehow misconstrued by the press.
"You need to at least attempt to understand the culture you married into," said Ryan. "We avoided having these conversations on camera as I knew this was a complex topic and did not want it to seem as I was weaponizing the camera against her. I will own that—I intentionally derailed conversations or avoided them because I knew where it would go."
6 Ryan Oubre And Clara Berghaus' Divorce Statements
When it became public knowledge that Ryan and Clara were processing through a divorce, they each took a moment to reveal their side of the break-up story with their fans. Ryan posted a lengthy, cordial explanation about the reasons which led them to this decision, while Clara took a very different approach.
Within a day of Ryan's post going up, Clara revealed that she was going to be engaging in a tell-all for fans to view and began to tell her version of the breakup by saying, "Every story has two sides. This is mine. Tonight at 8pm on @lifetimetv," she said.
5 Clara Says She 'Went Through Hell And Back' Within Her Marriage
Clara Berghaus clapped back at Ryan for wanting to end their marriage and states that she went through a very difficult time with him towards the end of their relationship. "I went through hell and back the last 18 months and at this point I have to say, I'm so so proud of myself and how far I've come. And as nerve-wracking as this experience is, I know that telling my story will be integral to my healing process and let me tell you, I'm so ready to put all of this behind me," she said.
4 Clara Berghaus And Ryan Oubre's Intimate Life
Clara dragged Ryan's reputation online by stating that he was less-than-satisfactory in the bedroom. She went on to describe the various reasons that she wasn't happy with their level of intimacy and ultimately wound up openly sharing these moments of dissatisfaction with other Married At First Sight wives during Season 12. She complained about every aspect of their intimacy and made it clear that Ryan wasn't a match behind closed bedroom doors.
3 Ryan Lost Trust In Clara After She Aired Their Private Details
When Clara used the Married At First Sight platform to air her bedroom grievances, Ryan felt betrayed. He wasn't on board with sharing their personal details with the public and felt that by complaining about him in this manner and dragging his name, Clara had betrayed him. Try as he may, Ryan was unable to see past this moment and says this made him realize he would never be able to fully trust Clara again. He knew at this point that his relationship was forever damaged.
2 Ryan Oubre And Clara Berghaus' Divorce Reactions
Ryan Oubre promised Clara Berghaus' parents he would always treat her with respect, and he kept his word. Proving that he was an honorable man, Ryan didn't bash Clara in any way during their separation. He kept his social media posts respectable and informative for his fan base but stopped short of being rude or airing too much of his dirty laundry. On the other hand, Clara retaliated with a tell-all interview and bashed Ryan. She also used her breakup as a money-making opportunity by tantalizing fans to tune in to Married At First Sight to learn all about the juicy details that led to a breakdown in her marriage.
1 Ryan Had Deep Concerns About Having Children With Clara
When Ryan Oubre and Clara Berghaus got married, they set their sights on having children and expanding their family. However, Ryan began having doubts about whether Clara could handle having an interracial child. He felt that her conduct wasn't a reflection of someone that respected people of color and that wasn't how he wanted his children to be raised.
Ryan stated, “By marrying into a different race/culture you inherently adopt parts of their identity. Most importantly, your kids 100 percent will, and your kids will need you to help navigate it. They’ll need you to help teach, train, and understand as best you can – a systematically racist system. Choosing not to attempt to understand and educate yourself is a red flag.”
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